What Is Your Inner Voice Saying? 3 Ways To Align Empower And Tune Up Your Self Talk
Do you feel stuck in a rut? Frustrated, unhappy, going around in circles? Would you like to take change and possibilities into your own hands – but have no idea how to get there from where you are right now? I’ve got the answers…
Let’s start with that inner voice. Our inner voice should really be like a compass, a guide who shows us the way and helps us maneuver through life. Then we can take the lead as the captain of our own life and have this secret weapon that keeps us safe and guides us towards opportunities and away from threats. That would be the ideal scenario and bring a feeling of real autonomy and agency in our lives, right?
Results happen over time, not over night.
What we can see from leaders and influential people is that they seem to be having this kind of grip on their lives. They are very intentional, conscious and have strong opinions – and articulate those very well, too. Wouldn’t that be nice? Some belief in yourself?
Even if it feels unimaginable from where you are right now, change and possibilities are in your own hands. You just have to make some upgrades to your habits and your mindset.
Before we get into the 3 steps to tune up your inner voice and get back the lead role in your own life...
…let me tell you a slice out of my own life.
A few years ago I was living my life as a mum, wife and regional lead in a global media agency, living in London and travelling the world. When Covid hit my life was turned upside down and a lot of changes hit me over the coming 18 months. I had to move countries with my family, uprooting us all and admitting to the end of my marriage in the middle of it all – far away from my friends, my routines, in lockdown, in another country, trying to stay above water.
I was so deeply stuck in frustrations, what-ifs and resentments that I completely tuned out my inner voice. I had lost connection to my inner compass.
There wasn’t anything I tried to work towards, no vision, no goal, just survival and getting through the endless to-dos of re-settling. I felt sad, down, misunderstood and lonely. And I had no idea how to take action, how to ask for help. I was ashamed to ask for help because I felt nobody could understand my situation – and worse – I assumed I had to figure it out alone. So I dwelled in misery until I felt the urge to do something.
Don’t stop until you’re proud.
Sometimes it’s easier to get an outside perspective from a stranger. I found a life coach, implemented journalling and visualisation work. The coach and some really conscious friends and my parents help me to shift my mindset towards opportunity. I needed permission to be me again. I couldn’t give it to myself back then, out of guilt and fear I suppose. But once I felt enabled I went for it.
When people of my close circle gave me the permission to make a change, to be there for myself, to live my best life. To listen to myself. That’s when I changed my energy and my mindset. That’s when things started happening.
Always remember this:
- You are strong, powerful, and have potential – even if it’s deep down and you have to put in the work (coaching, journalling, meditation etc) to find back to your core being.To re-connect with your purpose.
- There is a way back to happiness. You are able to handle whatever happens. You need to trust your inner voice and tune it up so loud that you can never avoid it again.
- The feeling of agency in your own life will come back. You will feel less frustrated, nag less and less of a victim mentality where you shift the blame on others. Full empowerment is the goal to be happy and make the right decisions.
Here are my 3 steps to get there:
- Journaling. Look at where and when you are being hurt. Reflect on those moments when you journal. How did you feel? What did you think? How did you react? How would you rather have reacted? The more you do this exercise, the more you learn about yourself. You are starting to give your inner voice attention again. Self reflection is the key to transformation & growth.
- Set boundaries. The more you reflect and get to know yourself, the clearer your boundaries will become. Your inner voice will scream if someone oversteps, and you will hear her again, and listen to her because you know it’s the only way to respect yourself and the right way to love yourself. Say no. Speak up. Say stop. That’s what self care and self respect is.
- Habits. Switch up your daily habits. Better food, nutrition, time in nature, exercise, quality sleep. It’s the little things that are the big things, really. Do this for you.
If you follow the above 3 steps you’ll see how this will not only bring you closer to yourself, but also help you alleviate frustrations and misunderstandings. If you are clearer about what you want and what you don’t want, then others are also able to be clearer about communicating with you. You’ll be more authentic and you’ll feel more able to ask for help, so frustrations will come up less.
If you want to explore your inner voice , join me on a 10 day journaling challenge!
Set them a 10 day journalling challenge and some prompts to help them do this exercise daily and see a change over time. The Growth App is a great place to do this too.
I can’t wait to hear about your thoughts on this topic!
